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It has come to that time of the year where we begin to wrap up our year with highlights, reflections and the do's and don'ts to what you've achieved, haven't achieved or half-way through on achieving. But let's just face the facts right now...

When have you EVER ticked off a goal on your new year resolution list!? Let me give you a minute to think about this...

It turns out setting yourself a new year resolution goal list is a myth! The whole 'New Year, New Me' trend is losing it's value because it didn't have any value to begin with.


We humans cannot stick to a list of goals to achieve because we form back into micro-habits. It takes and average 18 to 254 days for an individual to understand their original habit, assess it's faults and begin to process in changing it's habits by implementing into their daily lifestyle. So, for example many of us put down 'do more reading' on our new year resolution list... which is fine as I'm quite guilty of this too. When it comes down to starting this goal... you're feeling motivated, enthusiastic, on a high... then 4-6 weeks later you're half-way through your book, you've lost consistency, motivation or you just simply get distracted and forget about finishing the book. Then 3-4 months into the new year you completely forgot about the goal and purpose to why you put this goal on your resolution list in the first place. Sounds familiar?

80% of us fail our new yearโ€™s resolutions by the first week of February

So how can we break this norm or change our mindset?

Tackle your new year with a more sustainable approach. Change comes with time instead of us changing with time. By normalising FAILURE and factoring the reason to why you failed will empower you to act on those muscles and fuel up the 'willpower tank'.

Consistency comes with a solid routine, automated and driven mindset, by building in failure and reassessing the faults/habits will give you a better chance in achieving your long-term goals and making you feel more powerful both inside and outside.

How do we change our habits?

The process of building any new habit is made up of four things:

  1. Cue: This tells you when to do the action

  2. Craving: This provides the motivation for the new behavior

  3. Response: This is the action or behavior itself

  4. Reward: This satisfies your craving and teaches you to continue performing that response (to the point of it becoming automated)

Accumulating just one percent improvements each day leads to massive changes in your life over time. Yes, it might take a whileโ€“but the results are worth it, and they stick.

โ€œWhat you do repeatedly ultimately forms the person you are, the things you believe, and the results you enjoy. โ€ฆ Change your habits and youโ€™ll change your life.โ€

Key Takeaways:

1. Don't create a new year resolution list. Instead give yourself monthly small wins to achieve such as doing 10 mins of reading every week. This will increase each time and you stay consistent.

2. Don't compare yourself to anyone, not even your younger last year self. What happened last year is now in the past, you've evolved and changed as a person. Moving into a new year with a positive mindset will boost your happy chemicals and give you that empowering feeling we all crave from others.

3. Pressure, what pressure? Don't put yourself under pressure on trying to go against a timeline in life. Destiny has your back and you have your own back. Always go with the flow and trust your gut vibrations!

4. Consistency is key! Can't preach how much consistency is one of the key elements too living a sustainable and happy life.

5. Take a Risk! We often forget to tell ourselves to take a risk because we're all caught up in our 'list' of goals to achieve. By eliminating the list and having a risk approach goals will change your micro-habits and give you a sense of seeing how to achieve your goals in a variety of approaches.

Finally, remember whatever your goals are...

DON'T FORGET TO CELEBRATE YOUR WINS!! No matter how small or big they are, you completely smashed it and achieved your goal!

Thank you for reading, likes and comments are always welcome. I wish you a wonderful soulful New Year. Bring on 2023!!

Chandni Patel @madeadifference

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